Holiday family myths

Suicides do not increase at Christmas. No matter what newspapers say. Witness the findings of a 27-year study:

Even people with family relationship problems were less inclined to attempt to hurt themselves during the holidays. “These findings are contrary to the popular view that Christmas is a time of stress and arguments,” [Oxford researcher Helen] Bergen says. Perhaps, she says, problems within the nuclear family ease up instead of intensify when the extended family is around.

Like suicide, domestic violence has its annual peaks — and not at the holidays. While there is conflicting information about the relationship between domestic violence and the holidays, best to avoid fearmongering in the absence of actual data.

These are two especially persistent holiday myths about family life. The best scientific evidence suggests that mental health improves for our nation as a whole over the holidays, that family interaction and support actually makes us happier and better-functioning. Yet we’re bombarded, year after year, with stories about how families make us crazy.

I suppose stories of families making us better might not sell so well, and to be sure, family interactions are complicated and sometimes difficult. But for more people than not, on balance, family time is a blessing.

I’ll be taking some family time over the next couple of weeks, returning in January. See you then.